The world famous A-List star Brad Pitt is a shining example of this!
Although Pitt does not name Aniston in the interview, he does talk about his life “10 years ago,” when he was still married to her, in terms that are not flattering.
Pitt shares, “For a long time I thought I did too much damage – drug damage. I was a bit of a drifter. A guy who felt he grew up in something of a vacuum and wanted to see things, wanted to be inspired. I followed that other thing.
I spent years f***ing off, but then I got burnt out and felt that I was wasting my opportunity. It was a conscious change… This was about a decade ago. It was an epiphany.”
Today, he reports being the happiest he has ever been while being with Angelina Jolie and their six children.
“I have very few friends. I have a handful of close friends and I have my family and I haven’t known life to be any happier.”
Back in September 2011, when he was also promoting another movie, Brad shared in an interview in Parade magazine, before working with Jolie on the set of “Mr. & Mrs. Smith” he “wasn’t living an interesting life. I think that my marriage had something to do with it. Trying to pretend the marriage was something it wasn’t,” he continued, also referencing his nineties pastime of “sitting on a couch, holding a joint, and hiding out.”
In both of these interviews Pitt casts a very dark image on that time of his life. In his statement he is clearing telling us that he did not like how he was living his life or himself. When this happens for any man, Hollywood star or not, the chances of the relationship thriving are very low.
A man must feel proud of who he is and what he is accomplishing to be able to be a good partner in his relationship. If these things are not present, it is very common for him to blame his partner. In other words, instead of taking personal responsibility for his current situation he will mistakenly believe that if he leaves his partner everything will be better for him.
Generally speaking in these types of cases his unhappiness lies in his own unrest within himself.
In the case of Pitt, when he brought Jolie into the picture creating a triangle, it most likely became a state of “life is boring and I feel badly about myself but she seems so exciting if I go with her my life will be great!”
Reportedly, Pitt and Jolie have faced many issues during their seven-year relationship together. However, the major difference is that Pitt seems to have taken personal responsibility while seeking personal growth and fulfillment during their relationship.
Which brings me to the next point that if a couple is in this situation yet the man has the courage to look at himself to make needed changes, the relationship can work out and thrive. However, If he is not willing, although the couple can still stay together, having a healthy and happy relationship is very unlikely.
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