The Hollywood version of relationships can often mislead us into believing that ours must be filled with excitement and romance twenty-four/seven in order to be considered a good one.
The leading man and woman are always “lost” without one another only to be finally fulfilled in the last scenes as they dramatically embrace while embarking on their idealistic happily-ever-after.
It sure makes going home to a house full of chores, the bills, and the kids unappealing!
The fact is that healthy and happy relationships are built on mutual love, intimacy, trust, respect, effective communication, having fun together, and a joint vision for the relationship. Sure this type of relationship has its share of excitement and romance too but these essentials tend to be on a smaller more realistic scale.
Interestingly, men overall have an easier time at recognizing this glitch of Hollywood’s portrayal of love.
Women on the other hand, are much more easily caught up in the illusion. They buy into the fantasy hook, line, and sinker. For these women, they will experience feelings of disappointment and uncertainty when they are not experiencing what they see in the movies in their own relationship. Unfortunately, this creates many unnecessary problems in an otherwise good relationship.
The “picture” of a good relationship is comprised of the solid building blocks mentioned above added with the expression of those elements being as unique as the couple themselves. In other words, as unique as each person is so is each couple.
So the next time you are tempted to look at your happy relationship and utter, “Uuggh isn’t there more?” remember that real relationships look a whole lot different from the ones in the movies!